The Chinese Family 0

I heard a story today, about a girl being disowned by her father for getting pregnant out of wedlock. She was 22 when it happened. Immediately two things came to mind. First, I can’t believe it’s still happening today. Second, how typical can Chinese people be?
It’s not a secret that Chinese tradition has many pillars. One of them being the concept of “face”. I’m not going to be giving an education here, but it revolves around keeping the family name honorable -” saving face”. The idea here is that by disowning her, he would be saving his face, upholding the family name because she is no longer part of it. Then consider the crime, getting pregnant before marriage. I’m not saying that it’s encouraged. Religions are against it. Society makes it a taboo. But do you really think disowning your child is the comparably righteous thing to do? It only shows that you care more about your stupid pride than your daughter, your own flesh and blood.
I don’t believe there is any reason that can justify what he did. You only have family in this world. If anything, mistakes (even more huge ones) should be covered with love. We all make mistakes. This man just cast the first stone.
We constantly feel the need to keep our culture and tradition intact, and in my case, people feel the need to prosecute me for not speaking Chinese. Since when being Chinese but not speaking the language is a grave crime? It’s like the Chinese can’t go wrong. We are the greatest civilization on planet Earth! Well, I’ve got news for you.
The thing behind this shit mentality (disowning children) is the same thing that you people feel so strongly about – the Chinese tradition! Tradition breeds thinking, mentality, attitudes. I don’t have a quote or a reference for you. But take a look around. You see it in TV shows, you hear it happening in real life, you read it in books. You know about it because it’s part of the Chinese mentality. TV scripts aren’t really far off from reality. I don’t hate my people. I hate the tradition and culture that form idiot mentalities like this.











